idioTsyncracy

The definitition of  idiosyncracy omits the most important one of all.  Look it up - the definition I found reads:

id·i·o·syn·cra·sy  ˌidēəˈsiNGkrəsē/ 

noun: idiosyncrasy; plural noun: idiosyncrasies  

       a mode of behavior or way of thought peculiar to an individual > "one of his  little idiosyncrasies was    always preferring to be in the car first"

a distinctive or peculiar feature or characteristic of a place or thing >"the idiosyncrasies of the prison system"

Sheez - that completely leaves out: potential to be the opposite & opponent of true, genuine loving.   Because that is what negative idiosyncracies, left unrecognized & unaddressed, can be - opponents of deep loving. John & I run into that reality at least once a week.  One of his idiosyncracies acts as a hair trigger to one of my most sensitive.  Every week, we go through the same mini drama & every week it's all because of what I have come to write as an idioTsyncracy.   There are a lot of idiosyncracies that are perfectly harmless, but it seems to me that we are called by common sense if not by a Higher Power to figure out which ones are doing damage & clear 'em out.   .