Wednesday, May 11, 2016

Utterly uncertified, wondrously inspired



It's true.  When it comes to speaking out on the critical importance of living expansively, to fomenting discontent with our current culture's woeful attitudes around aging, to being a ringleader in eldercare anarchy - I am utterly uncertified.  Not so much as a single professional letter designation follows my name.  Not one.  But I am most wondrously inspired to be part of a charge into virtually uncharted territory, turning shirked from & shunned discussions on the power of age & aging into a wildfire of conversations on all that it offers, all that's impossible at any earlier time!   

Those deep-into-the-night conversations aren't based on a researcher's certainty or a geriatrician's data.  They're based on faith that growing old isn't a major goof by nature, but the crowning moment of our very existence.  Plants are created in order to have their blooms admired, but to go to seed & generate a new generation.  This doesn't happen as a seedling, or a flower in bloom, but after the plant appears to break down.  In its apparent falling apart is its greatest power.  As with plants, so to with humans.  Are researchers & academics & other lofty experts likely to get their heads around that image?  Not likely.  

They can't even get their minds straight on the basics of aging!  It could be argued they are possibly the worst people to pull into conversations on aging.  What folks like yours truly considers crucially important, they see as sadly impotent.  As for needing proper credentials to speak about aging - the only common thread I've discovered in scientific studies, journal articles or lofty discussions about aging is some variation on, "Darned if we know."  

Seems to me that the combination of deep experience with a range of awesome elders plus the gift of wondrous inspiration puts me on good or better footing.  


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Let's take a look at some of today's experts on aging.  Specifically, Joao Pedro de Magalhaes, in an article for senescence.info,  Why Do We Age?* 


Over the years, many theories have emerged to explain what process or mechanism drives aging (reviewed in Medvedev, 1990; Weinert and Timiras, 2003). In fact, almost every important discovery in molecular or cellular biology has led to a new family of theories of aging. Most theories of aging have old origins, but the inherent difficulties of studying human aging--such as the lack of adequate models--make testing these theories a difficult, lengthy, and expensive process. Moreover, interpreting the results, for example from longevity studies, is frequently controversial; discriminating between causes and effects of aging is often impossible. That is why, at present, no consensus exists over what causes aging, what determines rate of aging across mammals, or what changes occur in humans from age 30 to 70 to increase the chances of dying by over 30-fold.


How does the well-researched, carefully considered, clearly written article end?

Unfortunately, the inevitable conclusion of this section is that the jury is still out regarding mechanisms of aging. Although the search for a pacemaker of age-related changes continues, the bottom line is that all proposed mechanisms can be upregulated by some other--unknown or not--mechanism. The large number of aging theories is proof that our understanding of aging is still far from perfect; to quote David Rollo: "In any field of science, the true degree of understanding is inversely proportional to the number of explanatory theories that prevail." Even so, and since there are more doubts than answers in gerontology, we should not discard these theories easily. Life, and marveling life and death as we do in gerontology, is a game of probabilities. Some theories have gathered more evidence than others and hence may be more promising foci for future research and for developing anti-aging interventions. So please read on the different theories of aging and hopefully you can conjure better theories or determine ways to better test the current theories experimentally. 



Aka, another version of "Darned if I know."  Was not surprised, since the article was introduced with a quote from the ancient wisdom of The Talmud -
"We do not see the world as it is, we see the world as we are."


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In What is Aging*, another article from the same site, Dr. de Magalhaes notes:

Although everyone is familiar with aging, defining it is not so straightforward. Aging can simply refer to the passage of time and can even have a positive connotation as in "aging wine." In the context of senescence.info, and unless otherwise noted, the term "aging" refers to the biological process of growing older in a deleterious sense, what some authors call "senescence" (Williams, 1957; Comfort, 1964; Finch, 1990). (Personally, I actually prefer the term "senescence." If this were an academic book, I would be tempted to use the term "senescence." Being a website with visitors from various backgrounds, I think the term "aging" is more accessible; "senescence" now also frequently refers to cellular senescence.) Aging is one of the most complex biological processes, whose definition is intrinsically related to its phenotype, as developed below.


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Sigh...  What a pity that he finds a positive connotation in "aging wine," but apparently can't conceive of an aging human body having a similar spin.


Two things came out of my extremely brief foray this morning (no more than 15 minutes of online searching "pathology of aging"):


  • There's virtually no actually definitive studies on why we age, let alone how.
  • There's not going to be, because such studies are "difficult, lengthy & expensive."  Which wouldn't be an obstacle if the pharmaceutical behemoths could make a tidy profit, but they offer no enticing profits.

From what I've discovered, researchers have left the question of "What are the benefits of aging as we were created to grow older?" to those of us without those vaunted professional letters behind our names, the utterly uncertified & wondrously inspired souls who see more, much more behind the whys & wherefores of growing older, elderly, ancient.  

In his 2015 TED Talk, Dr. de Magalhães poses the question, "What is aging & how do we prevent it?"  He has inverted the actual question, which is,"What is the power within aging & how can we honor nurture it?"  

Guess that will be the topic of my 2018 TED Talk!


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*Copyright © 1997 - 2001, 2004, 2005, 2008, 2010, 2012, 2013 by João Pedro de Magalhães. All rights reserved.
 

Sunday, May 8, 2016

time & time again



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It's not mere serendipity that two unrelated books I happen to be reading at the same time touch on the issue of - time.

Am must getting started on Creative Time (2012), by Marney K. Makridakisn, while I first read The Magic Lamp (1998) back in 2002 & again in 2013.  Since I can't continue with Marney's book until after completing the first creativity assignment, decided to dip back - again - into Keith Ellis' classic.  Completely forgetting its section on our relationship to...  drum roll, please - - TIME.

Funny thing is, I don't remember the section at all from my previous readings. This time, it practically leapt off the page, with it's consideration of vertical (our relatioship to the 24 hours that make up a day) & horizontal time.  Vertical time is judgmental, horizontal time is mellow.  Vertical time is what triggers our sense of not doing something fast enough, horizontal time says to just keep going & it will get done.  


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Vertical time is what discourages us, makes us throw in the towel before we complete a goal "because it is taking too long."  Horizontal time tells us we just miscalculated how long it would take;  recalibrate & keep on moving until it's finished.

Years & years ago, when I was going through a super rough patch following Mom's death, the withdrawal of my birth family & the shocking loss of my job ~AND~ it was taking months to regain my balance, my sense of vertical time is what made me fall apart with dark self-recrimination, slamming myself by wailing to John, "Why aren't you upset at how long this is taking, at the months & months I haven't been bringing in any money.  It's taking SO long!"  And it was horizontal time that inspired John's calm, loving response - "It's taking as long as it takes."  

Can remember - can actually feel my body's response - when he said that.  Everything about me that was tense & full of despair immediately relaxed & regained a sense of hope.  I was gauging my recovery in tick tock tick tock, while John was using heart beats.  

Tonight, I spent a lot longer clearing out closets than expected.  Could feel my chest tightening, my blood pressure rising, a dark cloud wrapping around my heart.  Felt it & recognized vertical time laying bare my lack.  As in a limited, narrow, constricted sense of time, a sense that encourages despair & giving up.  

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Like a kindly genie, horizontal time materialized & rescued me!  Instead of seeing all that I didn't get done in the two hours I'd set aside, saw all that had been accomplished & knew that there will be plenty of time tomorrow & the next day & the next to get the Front Room looking as nice as the Computer Studio did (before working on the next-door room threw it into temporary chaos).  Horizontal time clapped me on the back & congratulated my follow through.  

Regular, consistent, ordinary effort put into wise day-after-day action is far more likely to yield exceptional results than extraordinary efforts in isolated spurts of time.  Horizontal time might feel stodgy, but - like the turtle - it's more likely than vertical to get a job done & done well.  Vertical - the hare.  Horizontal - the turtle.   Slow & steady - quintessentially horizontal!


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Power of GIRL FRIENDS (Potential BFFs can apply!)



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Yesterday, over on my older2elder blog, I wrote a posting, Power of FRIENDS.  Today, spotted an item on AndThenWeSaved.com that inspired me to expand those thoughts.  

The very first suggestion under 17 Things To Do Today That Will Make You Proud of Yourself in a Year is:

1.  Create a tradition with your best friends: Schedule an Annual “Girl’s Trip”
My best college friends and I have made a tradition out of spending St. Patrick’s Day together every year. This national just-for-fun holiday makes for happening festivities all over the country and is equidistant between the Christmas chaos and summer soirees. Pick whatever dates make sense for your group and plan accordingly. Buying plane tickets as early as possible alleviates sticker shock, while opting for home exchanges or shared vacation rentals on websites like VRBO instead of opting for traditional hotel rooms significantly cuts travel expenses. Want another idea? Groupon even offers group getaway deals (I had no idea about these until recently.) Book now, enjoy later. No headache necessary.  (Or)... look into less-expensive or relatively free options like camping trips or resort-style staycations at a friend’s house for the weekend. 


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Hadn't read any further than the first idea & already I was totally engaged.  Although not for the reason author Lauren Mikus might have expected.  

Right off the bat, giving a shout-out to Ms. Mikus for leading off her 17 items with something celebrating friendship, particularly gal pal friends.  Our friends help make life more bearable, intensify our joys & temper sadness.  Here comes the but...  This sort of glorious get-away weekend is more likely to be enjoyed by sorority sisters & lifelong chums with healthy bank accounts than the average American adult female.  

Mind you, an annual just-for-fun get-away with dear female friends who enjoy hanging out with me AND each other would be fabulous, except a) I, like many many many others, don't have that sort of special friendship with one person let alone multiples, and b) have neither the time nor the funds available to make it so.
 
Besides, have wracking my brains with how a weekend away with a cadre of close gal pals would make me proud of myself in a year.  If the cohort of friends joined together for a weekend of doing service projects, that would make me proud, would possibly change the way I see a lot of things afterward.  But how would a weekend away pampering myself & having a high old time make me feel proud twelve months out?


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Am hoping Ms. Mikus forgives me for tweaking her #1: 
1)  Nurture here & now relationships so you have one or more close friends, women who stand by you in good times & bad, who - however far away they may be - offer a shoulder to cry on, an arm to wrap around yours in celebration, a heart open to hearing what longs to be shared.  Make sure that you have the empathy & take the time to do the same.  Go the extra mile.  Cut them a break if you feel exasperated.  

At least once a year, spend some serious time with them.  If they live a distance, save up for a plane ticket or meet halfway.  If that's not possible - my closest friend is a doctor with a large extended family, so she doesn't have a lot of extra time - arrange for a leisurely Skype or Google Hangout session.

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Practice the art of letter writing - yes, old-fashioned writing paper & a pen, envelopes  & stamps;  letters pack more punch than an e-mail ever could.  Go way beyond 140 characters.  Be present on the page.


Find fun post cards when you're on near or far travels, dash down a note & send them on their merry way.  Visuals of what's happening in your life are fun to get.

Send photos, often.  Not via computer.  Ones they can post of the fridge.  

Recognize that there will times when your schedule or theirs transforms what was once was regular contact into the rarest occurrence.  It means that life is crowding in, NOT that the friendship is over.  Find new ways to say, "Just saying HI!"  And be grateful when the big project is over or the once-teen graduates from college or whatever is blocking your friendship path is gone.

If you want to feel proud of yourself a year out, do things in the here & now that remind your close friends of WHY they are important to you, give them your most precious commodity - time - without any sense of return on your heartfelt investment, create a welcoming & safe environment where they can bring their best self, their worst, or all the gradations in between.  Be real, be appreciative & above all be present.            

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Friendships of any sort help us live longer, enjoy life more, even make us more productive in our work, whatever it may be.  For women, the power of GIRL FRIENDS cannot be underestimated.  Due to flukish reasons, I didn't take the opportunity to develop deep friendships in my childhood (okay, Hannah - am blessed with one really good lifelong friend), teens or as a young adult.  That was then, this is now.  I have a wonderful circle of friends that spans the globe & is constantly growing, deepening.  As much as I appreciate my guy friends, there's something special about my gal pals that enriches my life in ways I could never have imagined.  We don't need to get together for a weekend of great fun or service to appreciate each other.  We just need to be heart & soul present.  Feel that, do that, and every year will find you proud of yourself & deeeelighted with life.


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